Scripture:  John 15:9-17

Begotten by Love
Rev. Leanne Walt

According to Greek mythology Cassiopeia, the mythical queen of Ethiopia, angered Poseidon, the sea god, by claiming that her daughter Andromeda was more beautiful than the sea nymphs.  As punishment, Poseidon placed her high in the sky near the North Pole, upside-down, no less, where the constellation Cassiopeia bears her name.

That the existence of motherly love and pride practically exceeded the history of time itself explains quite a bit about my childhood.  My mother always seemed to believe that her children had absolutely no weaknesses or limitations in our abilities whatsoever.

The most shining example of this being that when it came time for me to apply to college, my mother took it upon herself to befriend the administrators who worked in every college admissions office throughout the continental United States so much so that after I had sent my application to Carleton College in Minnesota, one of the most competitive colleges in the country, I received a letter of acknowledgement in return stating (and I quote), “We are pleased to have received your application and understand that your mother highly recommends you for admission to Carleton College.”  I saved this letter and needless to say, it has become a long running family joke so much so that when I applied for my very first job out of college at a Boston publishing house, I asked my mother to write me a letter of recommendation because surely a mother’s recommendation trumps all others in the business world.

It’s no surprise that my mother highly recommended me for admission to any college or university in the country.  To this day my mother insists that I have a beautiful singing voice.  I have explained to her time and time again that not only do I not have a beautiful singing voice, but that I don’t need to have a beautiful singing voice - but no, no, no, she insists that I do.  She has yet to understand why I chose ministry over a lucrative recording contract.

Most recently, she reminded my husband Bill of this fact as he lightheartedly commented that it would be a real surprise if our son turned out to be a singer or musician of any kind given the nearly nonexistent musical talents of his parents. 

“Bill, Leanne has a beautiful singing voice,” she emphatically reminded him.

Well, with my mother having highly recommended me, I did attend college and while there I had the opportunity to spend a semester in Sri Lanka where I lived at an all girls Christian orphanage called Evelyn Nurseries.  Having labored, laughed, learned, and worshipped with the girls and young women there, I came to know the stories that had brought each of them to this place.  Addiction, abandonment, and ambiguity marred their respective histories.  Daughters of mothers who left them on the doorstep in the dead of the night.  Children who had never ventured off the tropical island of their birth and yet had come to know the bitter cold of winter, as the poet remarks:
            “My sorrow’s flower was so small a joy
            It took a winter seeing to see it as such.”[1]   
But joy they saw indeed.

One night, toward the beginning of my stay at the Nurseries, after we had eaten supper, washed the dishes, cleaned the kitchen, swept all of the walkways on the grounds, and had evening worship and prayers, I walked by one of the bedrooms where I saw Shamalie and Anoma, two teenage girls, sitting on one of the beds.  A large, open book sat on Anoma’s lap and Shamalie sat across from her.  I knocked on the open door, not wanting to startle them, and I walked into the room.  They looked up at me.
            “What are you doing in here?”  I asked them.
            “I’m spelling,” Shamalie told me.
            “What are you spelling?” I asked her, confused.
            “Words from the dictionary.  We’re on the Ds,” She explained, gesturing to the large book in Anoma’s lap, which I then noticed was a dictionary.  Shamalie had won the spelling bee at her school and next month she was going to be competing in the regional spelling bee held at the University.  In preparation, Anoma was going through the entire English dictionary and helping Shamalie learn to spell every single word.  Shamalie and Anoma continued with this routine each night.  After evening worship and prayers they would retire to their bedroom where they had a date with Webster, reciting letters and meanings.

Aristotle wrote that, “One of the best ways to habituate oneself in a particular virtue is to emulate those who already embody it.”  As I witnessed Anoma’s dedication to helping her friend, I wondered where she had learned such virtuous love.  I was always taught that the greatest example of Aristotle’s insight resided in the model of family - that parents embody love so that their children might learn to love; they embody trust so that their children might learn to trust, embody patience so that their children might learn patience, and charity so that their children might learn charity.

Yet, during my time at the Nurseries I came to understand that there is a greater, equally embodied love at work among the forsaken and among us all than that of parent to child.  Each night at the orphanage, we would close our worship services by singing a familiar hymn:

            Jesus loves me this I know/ for the bible tells me so/
                        little ones to Him belong/they are weak but He is strong

For these girls and young women, their point of reference for love came not by way of a parent’s example, but by way of Jesus.  Jesus.  Alive. Embodied.  At the Nurseries, out of broken and imperfect beginnings came strong and perfect love.  A love that had little to do with family of origin, genetics, or namesakes.  A love that encouraged and supported, that guided and sustained.  A love originating in and freely flowing from God, for Jesus explains: “As the Father has loved me, so I have loved you; abide in my love” (John 15:9).  Speaking to his disciples here in John, Jesus calls upon them to model their love after his love for them.         Yet, here Jesus is also emphasizing the power of God’s love and how it serves not only as the model for but as the motive for Jesus’ love for the disciples and our love for one another.  In the words of 1 John, “We love because he first loved us” (1 John 4:19).

For, God so loved the world that he gave his one and only son to the world, incarnating his love in the person of Jesus Christ for all eternity.  We have been begotten by a love-incarnate that has no beginning or end, created with a love that encompasses all that we are and encourages us in everything that we do.  A love that washes out all of our flaws, deficiencies, and inadequacies.  A love so powerful and pure that it sustains us, even and especially when we come into this world without a mother who’s wonderfully blind to all of our imperfections.  A love that insists we can accomplish more than we ever thought possible, a love that encourages us to persist despite the greatest of challenges.

And if we allow God’s love to truly flourish within us, then we cannot help but to give it away, following Jesus’ commandment, “To love one another as I have loved you.”  Christian love begets love begets love begets love. 

I remember well that Saturday morning, boarding the overcrowded, smelly bus with Anoma and Shamalie, traveling hours to the University for the regional spelling bee.  Anoma sat in the crowd, a mixture of nerves and pride, as her friend spelled her words on stage.  Shamalie didn’t leave that day with the title of Paredynia’s Spelling Bee Champion, but she left unconditionally loved and encouraged.

True love moves through us – from mother to child, husband to wife, friend to friend – flowing from one person to another, as it seeks to find its way back to its origin in God.

[1] “By Love We Are Led to God,” by Christian Wiman in The Harvard Divinity Bulletin, Winter/Spring 2012 (p. 33)
 
 
Chocolates, Conversation, Compromise: A Love Story
Rev. Estelle Margarones
Deuteronomy 6:4-9  Gospel of Luke 10:25-29 

­Here we are, February 12th.  I look forward to this week all year long.  We've got a very special day coming up this week.  Long stemmed red roses will be delivered, restaurants will be full, and cards will be exchanged.  Tuesday is Valentine's Day. 

But that special day that I love so much isn't Tuesday, the 14th...it's actually Wednesday, the 15th!  Because that's when those big red, heart shaped boxes of chocolates will be 50% off! 

Tuesday is Valentine's Day.  A day set aside for love.  So today we talk about love, but not about loving one other...instead, we talk about loving each other. 

In the Hebrew Bible, or Old Testament, in Deuteronomy Chapter 6, verse 5 we learn that we should love God with all our hearts, minds, souls, and strength.  In the New Testament, the Gospel according to Luke, chapter 10, Jesus changes it up a bit.  First he says you should love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind and all your strength.  Then he adds “and love your neighbor as yourself”. 

Before Jesus, and even during his time, a neighbor was regarded as someone who lived nearby, but more,  had the same ethnicity, the same language, the same culture, the same religion.  Back then, people from different places had different customs.  They wore different types of clothing.  They spoke different languages...and they were often at odds with each other.   

Jesus was asked “who is my neighbor?” and it was rather radical of him to give the example of the Good Samaritan. 

You know this story, right?  A Jewish man is mugged—he's robbed and beaten and he's left in a ditch.  A Jewish rabbi comes by sees him and walks by, a Levite —also a Jewish man— walks by, sees him and turns the other way. A Samaritan comes upon the scene, is moved by what he sees, puts the man on his donkey, bandages his wounds, takes him to an inn and gives the innkeeper money to care for him.  He also promises to pay whatever extra it takes to keep the man safe and on the mend. 

What makes this so radical is that at that time, the Jewish people and the Samaritans had been enemies for years! 

To Jesus, a neighbor was anyone with whom you came in contact.  This is a great life lesson for us today.  A reminder, as the day we celebrate love approaches, to love your neighbor as yourself. 

Love is a way of being in relationship. It's a way of approaching the world

Our neighbors today are those who live near us, but they're also the people shopping alongside us at Shaw's, and dropping off their dry cleaning at Dependable Cleaners, and having dinner at the next booth at the Cheesecake Factory over at the Plaza.  In 6 hours, you can be in Europe.  And with the world wide web, you can shop at stores in Asia.  Our neighbors also people across the globe.

Our neighbors are Christian, Jewish, Muslim, Buddhist, and Humanist.   Our neigbors speak English and Spanish and Mandarin.  Some share your customs; others don't.  Some of our neighbors have been here forever and some have just become citizens.  Our neighbors are Republicans and Democrats and those who prefer the “unenrolled” designation.

The directive isn't to think like your neighbor.  The charge isn't to act like your neighbor.  It isn't to agree with everything they think or say or do.  And it isn't to judge your neighbor.  It's to LOVE your neighbor.  

When you love, you care. Caring means that you recognize that we have more in common than we don't. And it sometimes means standing up for what's right even if there is some personal sacrifice or risk. 

Martin Niemoller, a German pastor and concentration camp survivor, wrote the poem, “First They Came”. 
First they came for the Socialists, and I did not speak out -- Because I was not a Socialist.
Then they came for the Trade Unionists, and I did not speak out --Because I was not a Trade Unionist. Then they came for the Jews, and I did not speak out -- Because I was not a Jew.
Then they came for me -- and there was no one left to speak for me.

We don't always have things in common with our neighbors.  Witness, “the Good Samaritan”.

Love is a way of being in relationship. It's a way of approaching the world

Meet Ben.  He lives on a farm in rural Maine.  His family has owned acres of land for 300 years.  Ben is an oil truck driver and his wife is a social worker.  They have two little boys.  For the past several years, Ben has had a side-business cutting firewood.  About a year ago, the house next door was sold.  Ben's new neighbor recently came over, angry.  He'd been riding his horse when the horse was spooked by the noise of the wood chopper.  He threw Ben's new neighbor to the ground. 

Jesus said to love your neighbor as yourself.  So...do you love your neighbor when he comes to your home and yells at you? 

You could exchange angry words and tell him that since you pay your taxes, you  have a right to do whatever you want.

You might ask that he  pick a weekend time when he can ride and during which time you'll refrain from cutting wood?  If you have a conversation and come to a compromise, you may even find that he teaches your kids to ride.... and he buys firewood from you! 

As humans, we are hardwired with the capacity for compassion. 

A couple of weeks ago on the news, you may have seen a bungee jumping accident on the news.  A girl jumped off a cliff and a few seconds and several hundred feet into the fall, the bungee cord snapped and the girl hit the water, hard, and was carrried down in the current.  Watching that, I felt my heart skip a beat.  And I prayed for her.  Have you ever had that kind of a reaction?  Even though you don't know personally know the person, and even though you will never go bungee jumping, you have compassion for the one who had the accident. 

Maybe that's what it was like for the Good Samaritan. 

Love is a way of being in relationship. It's a way of approaching the world. 

Love God and love your neighbor as yourself.  Start with a  prayer.  And a conversation. You will be strengthened when the fabric of your life is open to others. 

When you love another, there is compromise.  Do you communicate with others? Are you willing to see beyond yourself and to make changes to benefit others?  (Will you also ask for what you need?)

When you love another, it's easy to see the good.  Do you see the good in others?  When you consider your life, do you see the good in yourself?   

When you love another, you offer encouragement.  Do you support others?  (And do you see the possibilities in your own life?)   

When you love another, it's easy to do things for that person.  Do you care for others?  (And do you take care of yourself?)

My friends in faith, when you love God, you live a full, rich, life.   

When you love your neighbor you are compassionate, helpful, open to communication and willing to compromise. 

When you love yourself, you are peaceful and hopeful, and you reflect God's light right back into the world.  So love God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and with all your strength.  And love your neighbor as yourself.  Blessed Be and Amen.